My stepping stones on the path to happiness

THE "EGO" AND EGOCENTRISM

I would like to share last night’s thoughts with you because I believe that they will help clear up many things in every person’s mind.
Anybody familiar with Pythagorean numerology will know that the Ego is the first lesson in evolution. I wonder what it is about the function and the expression of this concept that confuses people and why Pythagoras cites it as the initial element in our evolution, and, at the same time, as the first of nine lessons learned by our soul during its evolutionary course.
What does the Ego indicate?
The thoughts and experience I gained from years of working on myself lead me to the conviction that the Ego defines the concepts of BEING and HAVING. I feel that through these two concepts I acquire the consciousness of my EXISTENCE AND SUPPORT OF THE SELF.  This consciousness gives rise to the concept of SELF-LOVE. In other words, through the Ego and support of the self, I foster self-love, and the more I love myself, the more I support myself. This process never ends. After all, that is also part of its magic.
As a result, we develop a healthy and strong Ego, a strong existence, in other words.
A strong Ego means I am a SELF-LUMINOUS, WHOLE, UNITED, BALANCED, INDEPENDENT, AUTONOMOUS, SELF-RELIANT self. In the course of time, with the self-knowledge attained through inner work, all these concepts manifest themselves in such a genuine and simple manner, much like a toddler crawling on all fours and suddenly rising and standing on its own two feet. The joy is indescribable…
And once the BEING blossoms then the HAVING follows. For, in order to have, one must first be. I cannot bear fruit if I am not a sturdy tree. (I suggest you read the chapter titled “The Tree of Happiness” in my first book A Droplet’s Journey.)
Therefore, a strong Ego means neither egocentrism nor self-centredness. These are the low vibrations of the Ego, the insecure self.
The high vibrations of the Ego support the person because they express SELF-LOVE, which becomes the source of one’s freedom, as in free to be oneself, free to define one’s life and free of conditioning and illusions.
And individuals then become a SOURCE of SUPPORT for those around them, expanding their self-love to love of others. They want others to be free, to be well in the manner they choose to be, through their own needs and wants.
Notice that it is egocentrism that creates problems in relationships. There is no communication, there is no respect, there is no appreciation, there is no freedom, there is no love. Being under the delusion that it knows best what is good for the other, egocentrism wishes to impose its own beliefs and lifestyle. Egocentrism thrives on this behaviour as it is how it acquires value, strength, security.
It seems to be saying: Look at me, I am here!!!  In other words, it imparts the strength of its existence on those around it. And the more it fails to fulfil its expectations, the angrier, sadder, more envious, it becomes.
How many inner shortcomings are hidden behind egocentrism! And they all originate from experiences we have registered from our childhood.
And what do we do now?
First of all, we should start by recognizing that this behaviour springs from egocentrism and not from the Ego. This requires introspection and observation. Once we have recognized it and find within ourselves what we have been seeking externally, then egocentrism will automatically dissipate. It no longer has a reason to exist since it doesn’t need to feed on something outside itself. It is the moment when the individual finds one’s worth, strength, safety, freedom, love and happiness within oneself. (I suggest you read my second book Beauty.)
And then, egocentrism yields its place to the high vibration of the Ego, that of LOVE, which unites the opposing and the opposites.
And then, everything within us and around us is overturned as we now see in others parts of ourselves that we comprehend, that we accept, that we forgive and that we love. Then, we all become ONE.
And then we start to experience the day of reckoning, the end of the old and the beginning of a new world within and around us. We unveil the GRANDEUR OF OUR EXISTENCE.

I WANT TO LIVE IN A BETTER WORLD

In mathematics, we can't expect a different result when working with invariable parameters. Similarly, we can't hope for a better world without changing the givens that it is made of.
And these givens are we the people. All people, regardless of borders, language, gender, religion, nationality.
We are the dynamics of the world we wish to live in. The responsibility is ours. To shift responsibility on others is a sign of inertia. The question that arises is whether we wish to change this world...
The exercise of free will and the acceptance of responsibility by each of us are the givens that can create a new World. A World with new values and ideals, where the 'New Human' will reign.
The 'New Human' with a free mind and a free heart. Free of delusions and dependencies, free to love unconditionally, as an evolved spiritual being residing on our beautiful emerald planet, creating for the Greater Good and the Good of all.
We are all of great worth and have an immense role to play in this new reality. Let each of us place our individual stone in the building of a new world, one that is equal to this "Human", the carrier of God on a material level.

I ACCEPT RESPONSIBILTY

By accepting responsibility —that of my reality, my self and my life—, the responsibility for everything I do, for everything I feel, for everything that happens in my life, I become an ADULT.  As an adult being, I attribute responsibility neither to others nor to myself for whatever happens in my life. Nobody is to blame. It is one thing to accept responsibility and another to attribute responsibility. Through the conscious acceptance of my responsibility, I perceive and conceive of all things as gifts in my evolutionary course. Everything is as it should be for the master plan of my soul; everyone in their role as actors on the stage of life so that I may receive and offer the lessons accorded me and that I need for my evolution.

The acceptance of responsibility is characteristic of an emotionally mature person, for only a child cries and wails that others are to blame for its misfortunes.

Living as an adult, I experience my release from negative emotions because none of my needs (the need to feel worthy, strong, safe, free, loved and joyful) is at risk.

Living as an adult means taking back, from situations and people, my ability to understand what is happening and what I feel (others simply mirror pieces of myself), the strength to support myself on all levels, the strength to define my life, the strength to change my life, the strength to create what I desire. It is the way to acknowledge everything — the gifts, the lessons that aid me along the course of my life. That’s what we mean by evolution.

By experiencing my adult self, I become master of my reality and the artist of my life. It is my responsibility to select the colors with which I will paint the canvas of my life. Will I create a bright or a dark environment, joy or misery, in my life?

Whoever wishes to acquaint themselves with and understand these lessons should refer to my book Beauty, in particular the chapters “The lessons of our soul” and to the TABLE OF CONSCIOUSNESS at the end of the book. (More information on my website www.Kosmos-books.gr ).

The greatest gift we can bestow on ourselves and on others is our evolution, the opening of our consciousness, our coming of age and our happiness.

If each and every one of us did this, we would create another cosmos.

THE FIRST, MOST BEAUTIFUL CHRISTMAS OF MY LIFE

SO MUCH TO SAY…WHERE TO START? … A RIVER OF WORDS AND MORE…

A quarter past seven in the morning…

In a room still plunged in darkness, the alarm clock became the harbinger of the dawning of a new day, heralding fresh images, feelings, emotions, thoughts, messages, the promise of sharing, fun and games, laughter, joy, beauty…

“Margaret, wake up…” my first words resonate across a room which, like its occupants (Margaret and myself), was eager to peer out the window and feast its eyes on the snowy peaks of Konitsa, to be awakened by the frosty breath of Astraka, to encounter the bright, crystalline day lying ahead…

This morning, the alarm clock is playing hide-and-seek between the dream world and reality. At the moment, I don’t know which to choose.  Where to nestle? In the dream or in reality?

How can I play? Where are my co-Travellers?

A bittersweet grievance fleetingly brushes against my heart.

“What does a day in the mountain leave you with?” The words of our beloved Drosoula awaken me, show me the way…

“I know what I’ll play today!” joyously squeals the child within me, hopping around. “I’ll create my own game, combining the dream with reality, reliving these wonderful Christmas days with all my senses.  Yippee!”

And the game begins… One by one the images parade before my eyes… Some burrow into my heart, some into my thoughts, others manifest themselves in my sense of taste, while others sweeten my sense of smell with precious and unique fragrances… But all of them are within me, making their presence so profoundly felt that they lift me on a journey beyond time and space, joining the yesterday, the today and the tomorrow.

Everything speaks to me, all things become my co-Τravellers, all things become everything … so many things …

She mused…

“The sun gifted her with its warmth, dressing her in an ethereal garment that it had woven itself on the loom in its home using its brightest rays. The sky, as a citizen of the world, planted within her heart and mind the opening of its infinity and the vastness of its worldwide presence. The wind breathed into her the sense of freedom which would characterize her every expression throughout her life. The night gave her the stars and the moon to soothe her and calm her in both difficult and easy moments. The trees gave her their sturdy roots so that she could stand firmly upon the ground to weather whatever storms she would face later in life. The flowers trickled their perfume all over her being so that she would remain unforgettable to all who meet her.  The waters of the rivers and seas gifted her with their flexibility so that she could wind her way past any obstacle in her life.”

(Extract from my book A Droplet’s Journey, www.kosmos-books.gr).

One day in the mountain, though, was and is much, much more than that…

It is all of you, with whom I shared the first, most beautiful Christmas of my life … but also you, who were absent (Rania, Elias, Julia, Elena, Thanos) as well as all the members of Travellers, with whom I share what constitutes supreme bliss for me: life in nature, Love and Awareness.

I thank my roommate Margaret –you were a revelation for me; my nutty pals in the peanut gallery, the nouveau-adolescents– Maria (Marilena’s godmother), Barbara and Panagiotis– words cannot describe how much we laughed!!!!! Well-behaved children… well-behaved so that Drosoula would let us all go into the bar….

I thank all of you, acquaintances and strangers, who, through the wealth of your soul, through a conversation, a hug, a glance, a smile, a joke, a ‘Good morning!’, a ‘Good night’, a ‘What’s your name?’, a ‘Happy New Year!’, a wish, a game, a dance, even a concern, become a reflection of my entire self, a union of all aspects of myself, thus assisting my evolution.

I thank you, Marilena, with all my heart – because of the great love you have for what you do, you inspire, you compose and you conduct this wonderful orchestra of souls … I thank you, Costa, our guardian-guide. Your experience and sangfroid inspired Sergio to suggest that instead of saying ‘we have a guardian angel’ we should say ‘we have Costa!!!!’ … We all understand why, don’t we?... Beautifuuuuuuul!!!

I thank all of you –Costi, Drosoula, Stella, Mimi, Manolis– for taking on the roles of leaders and ‘brooms’ and, in so doing, you teach us, you take care of us, you assist us, you guide us, step by step, one breath at a time, to cross gorges and rivers, to climb mountain slopes, to roam valleys, to reach the summit … from where we gaze at the essence, the meaning and the beauty of life.

And last but not least, I thank you, Alexander, for you are an entire chapter in and of itself, a story, a narrative, a perambulation, a source of joy!!!

And… lest we forget ourselves …and in order to remain within the spirit of the Travelers, whoever discovers what goes from cat, to cap, from cap, to can, from can, to gap… please inform us!!! Till then, I’m rolling on the floor laughing!!!

I love you

Melina

When the love within us blossoms….

I never liked people who wanted to be on good terms with everybody. Because these people aren’t genuine. It takes courage in life to be genuine … not towards others but mainly towards yourself. To be able to express your beliefs, your needs, your wants, to be able to accept your weaknesses and your imperfections, whatever the consequences may be. It means to have personality.

But this genuineness creates resentment in some people who perceive their own inability to support themselves, their own dependence on people and situations, their own need for other people’s approval in your behavior,

And this … they do not forgive. Their inner insecurity does not allow them to be themselves.  Their weakness holds them captive and this feeling of entrapment they experience triggers a feeling of anger towards others. However, it is the anger toward their own self that they refuse to see, to comprehend, to process.

In the course of my life, though, I have changed. My mind and my heart opened.  I gained insight into myself and by extension into others. The rigidity with which I regarded myself gave way to flexibility and acceptance of my weaknesses and imperfections. The act of understanding myself made me gentler, sweeter, it made me more flexible and allowed me to see the degree of strictness and perfectionism I had toward myself and others….

I wanted to be perfect, flawless because I thought that only then would they love me… Let us at least notice —to the best of our ability— when we resort to such thinking and let us accept all aspects of ourselves and of others. Even behind these people, these people who are not ‘genuine’, there is a soul that needs to be loved. We are all souls in evolution, we have strengths and weaknesses, we are entitled to our imperfections and have the right to make mistakes. That is how we move forward… through love… because only Love is the Truth. The blossoming of the love within me enriched my personality.